This is the frustration, the overwhelm, and sometimes the tears that can come when the timer ends and the task isn’t finished. That moment can feel like failure for a child who’s trying their best. But here’s what’s actually happening: her brain is learning to regulate emotions, process endings, and recover from frustration. We don’t rush her through it. We validate her feelings “It’s okay to be upset. You tried really hard.” Then we give her more time. Mikko is home homeschooled, which means we

1️⃣ Order for both of you. Don’t ask, don’t explain. Two simple cappuccinos. Then wait. 2️⃣ If he immediately snaps: “Why did you decide for me? Maybe I don’t even like that coffee!” This isn’t about taste—it’s about emotional stability. A man who panics or takes offense over a $5 drink isn’t grounded. If a small choice rattles him, imagine what real stress will do. 3️⃣ If he calmly corrects you: “Thanks, but I usually take it black—mind if I swap?” This is confidence without aggression. He can